3 Lessons I Learned After Leaving Boarding School
Leaving boarding school brought about significant life lessons that continue to shape who I am today. I want to share three things I learned after stepping out of that environment, which may resonate with anyone in a similar situation.
1. Embrace New Experiences
The boat is leaving the dock whether you get on it or not. What I mean by this analogy is that time will keep moving forward, and life will keep happening regardless of whether you’re prepared or willing to participate. Instead of moping around and potentially missing out on the beautiful, rewarding experiences you desire, take action and embrace those opportunities.
After my first year at Bellaire, I made the decision to get more involved—both in church and at school. I began exploring new experiences, like acting in my Theater class and performing at church. Through this, I discovered how much I enjoyed preparing for roles and pushing myself creatively. I also challenged myself physically by running the 400m race, which helped me realize my potential to exceed my limits.
It’s crucial to realize that the people you left behind are not dwelling on you. They are boarding the boat and moving forward with their lives. So why remain stagnant? If they want to be a part of your life, they can send you a message. Dwelling on the past or replaying old mistakes only holds you back from the present and the future.
What’s helped me combat this habit is sharing my experiences through my blog and YouTube channel. I remember hearing Dr. Dharius Daniels, the pastor of Change Church, say that “the only way to get rid of a bad past is to have a beautiful future.” That quote has been uplifting when I face challenges and when the enemy tries to use my past against me.
2. Encourage Someone
The knowledge and experiences you’ve gained aren’t just for you—they’re meant to be shared. Every person has a purpose, and with our limited time on Earth, I strive to impact someone’s life meaningfully.
When I first arrived at boarding school, I was confused and often wanted to run back home. I didn’t feel comfortable, and I was in unfamiliar territory. But those challenges forced me to develop independence and survival skills that I still use today. Looking back, I see how necessary that discomfort was, not just to tell my story but to heal and make space for what God has in store for me.
So, use your confusion, despair, and challenges to speak life to others. As Dr. Dharius Daniels once said, “Admit that it hurt so you can get healed,” and “until you find a reason to live beyond YOU, you won’t find joy.” Joy is so much more profound than happiness—it’s found when you start to live for yourself and realize your purpose.
3. Transitions Must Happen
Transitions are an inevitable part of life, and they are not mistakes. Change is necessary for growth, whether it’s the transition from sophomore to junior year of college (where you’re expected to prepare for internships and future careers) or any other phase of life.
Transitions mold you, testing your perseverance and faith. The struggles you face during these times become your testimony once you’ve emerged on the other side.
Conclusion
1. Embrace new experiences—Don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone and take on the opportunities life offers.
2. Encourage someone—Use what you’ve learned to uplift and support others on their journey.
3. Transitions must happen—Embrace change and allow it to shape you into a better version of yourself.
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